3 Ways to Mother Yourself this Mother’s Day

Mother Yourself

 

Mother you first. Yup I mean it sis…mother. you. first.

As women, we give and give and give then…hole up…there’s one more drop left in us, so we give that too. And 9 out of 10 times, that last drop is given to someone else, not yourself.

When we do that, we can be left feeling depleted and we start to run on auto-pilot instead of consciously living a joy-filled life.

So it’s time we care for ourselves what our mothers did for us and what we do for our own children. Here are three simple ways you can do just that:

1. Treat yourself like a newborn baby.

Yea you read that right. Tend to your needs as soon as they need to be done. When a baby cries because it’s hungry, what does a mother do? Feed her. When a baby needs soothing, what does a mother do? Massage her, coddle her, speak soft encouraging words to her. So take your cue from the babies, when you have a need that needs to be met, let it be known and then tend to it right away.

2. Like child, like mother.

Sleepless nights, baggy eyes, stained clothes, matted hair and just plain feeling like crap. This is the story for many mothers, new and seasoned. But guess how the babies and children are? Well-rested, bright eyed, fresh clothes, well-groomed and playful. And that’s because their mother made sure all of their needs were met BEFORE she took care of her own. So know I’m letting you know that is perfectly fine to do tend to your needs first sis.

The same way you will see that your child goes to sleep at a decent time so they’ll be rested, make sure you put yourself to bed at a decent time for your well-being and health. The same way you make sure your kids have fresh clean clothes on daily, make sure you go out looking your best beautiful self on the regular!

3. Mother knows best.

As mamas one thing we do is give advice. Why? Because we want the best for our children and life has shown us a thing or two and we want to impart that knowledge onto our kids. Another reason is because we have that innate feminine intuition where we just know that we know. Well follow that intuition sis, and heed your own advice. Most times our gut gives us signs when something is amazing for us and when we need stay far, far, far away from it. Listen to your inner voice. ‘Cause just like your mama, she knows what she’s talking about.

Talk to me sis! In what ways will you mother yourself this Mother’s Day?

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Why I’m so pumped that Winter is OVAH!

Winter is Ovah!

The birds are a-chirping, the days are a-warmer and the flowers are a-blooming….yessss! Spring makes me get all cheesy inside and out. And for darn good reason.

On the East Coast, we had freezing rain, icy roads, blizzards and it was pretty much cold as h*ll these past few months, so on that first warm day of the year we were ready to give us FREE!

Now while I usually loooove my winter days, curled up under my throw, sipping on some chai and binging on a good Netflix series, I was so READY for winter to be over.

I was tawd, not tired, tawd of coats, tawd of boots, tawd of not being able to let the sun warm up my face and spirit.

So now that the Spring Equinox has occurred and all of nature is aligned with this season, let me tell you the top 3 things I love about Spring:

1. How Nature just gets it, and it EVERYTHING comes to life

Beautiful blossoms doing what they do best...blooming!

Beautiful blossoms doing what they do best…blooming!

The birds don’t wait to come up North in the Spring. The flowers don’t ask for persmission to bud and bloom their beautiful petals. The hibernating animals don’t seek approval from the rest of the animal world to remerge. When the weather changes, so do they, like clockwork. They just do it. No hesitation at all. I take a cue from nature to bloom during this season as Spring is usually the time when my mind starts racing and filling with ideas about a new wellness venture or offering.

2. Bountiful cherry blossom trees blooming ALL over the city

soaking in the sun at Monument with the little fella!

soaking in the sun at Monument with the little fella!

There’s nothing more iconically Spring in the District than cherry blossoms blooming all over the city. A gift from Japan over 100 years ago, these white and pink petals are ubiquitous in the DC metro area. I’ve been blessed to live on a tree-lined street (yes that is possible in DC 😉 that has five cherry trees so I get to see them in full bloom right from my window.

And when I want to see them in a grove, I head down to the Washington Monument, like I did last week and had a mini-picnic with my son. We sat right under the trees and there was just enough wind to create a soothing whooshing sounds between the branches. But these trees are short-lived and are only in full bloom for about two weeks every year in mid to late March. So if you can make it to DC during that time, come on down, it’s worth it!

3. The freshness in the air

That freshness is not just in nature, it’s in our thoughts, feelings and how motivated we become this time of year. It’s like this season just brings a natural momentum that gets people going! When new ideas and energies come we have to make room for them by leaving behind stale thoughts and emotions (and sometimes people) that don’t serve us. In order to let the freshness come in we gotta get the other crap out. You don’t see flowers trying to bloom using last year’s buds that have already withered and died. Nope. They start anew every Spring season.

So let’s take our cues from nature, reawaken our dormant life-affirming ideas and embrace the abundant beauty of this season.

If you need a little help detoxing your old thoughts and patterns, there’s space in the spring Sistas Yoga Series, Twist Out The C.R.A.P. We kick off on April 3rd.

So what are some things you LOVE about this season?

Love Letter to My Sistas

Love letter to my sistas

Dear Beautiful Black Woman,

You are right where you are supposed to be in life.

All that you have done in your life has brought you to this day. This day that is like no other.

This day that can be crafted to be whatever you choose, because you are in control of your life and the people and energies you allow in it.

I see you sis.

Yea I do. I see your beauty shining through in all that you do.

I see how well you care for the children you have birthed, the children you teach, the children you mentor.

I see how you are there for your sistafriends with a loving ear.

I see how you are patient with those that challenge you.

I see how you support your mate and strive to be a better partner for them.

I see how you show your family loving attention everyday.

I see how you SHINE in your life’s calling and always show up as you.

I see how you love your body on the regular.

And speaking of your body. It’s perfect. Yup perfect, because it’s yours. There may be pounds you want to release or places you want to tone up, but guess what girl? That’s just making it even mo’ better than it already is.

Every curve on your hips, every stretch mark on your thighs, every sag in your arms, every line on your face, every blemish, every scar on your belly is p e r f e c t.

Smile and know that.

My sista, my sista, I love you. I may know you, I may not, but I love you.

I love you for the trials you face daily and the graceful resilience you show.

I see your tears and I know that there is strength in every drop.

I love you for still shining despite what others have thrown your way in the past. I love you for THRIVING in a world that may not have your back all the time. But I know you have your own back all. the. time.

I see you sis.

Be patient with where you are on your journey. Don’t feel you should be a certain place or have received a certain something already.

I see you recommitting to being the best version of you everyday.

I see you for praying to a Higher Power and knowing that sometimes you have to simply leave it up to Him.

I see you loving your beautiful, melanated self.

I see you and I love you.

With All My Heart,

Nazaahah

Resolution or Goals?

DownloadedFileEvery year at this time people set their goals for the new year, especially heath-centered ones.We see a barrage of things like, “Lose 10 pounds” “Eat more Veggies” “Run a Marathon”

While I love the excitement that these resolutions bring, I’m not a fan of the short lifespan most of them have. A lot are made in January and forgotten by the middle of February.

I’m more of a fan of goals. Goals give you something to actually aspire to not just an idea of what you want to do. Goals are juicy!

Why so juicy, you may ask, well beacause instead of saying I want to lose 10 pounds, make a monthly goal to lose a 5 lbs. Then from that goal do the steps necessary to reach it (walk around your block 3x everyday, no sodas at lunch time. etc)

So in this new year let’s focus on goals not just words. Get a jump-start to your goal-setting  at this year’s Vinyasa & Vision workshop. Surround yourself with beautiful people, flow through an inspiring yoga class here!

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Say my Name, Say my Name

Pretty, girly, safe and yoga-ey. That’s what I thought my wellness brand had to be.

I would scour the websites of all kinds of yoga teachers and see if my marketing was as “yoga enough” as theirs. I made several versions of my site (one is below) but realized that with each iteration all I had to do was swap out the logo, a picture here and there and it coud be any Jane Yogi’s site or brand. Exhibit A below:

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Which led me to some surrrrious mid-year refelection. Who the hell was I as a teacher? Was I saying what I really wanted to say? Who came to most of my classes? Which of my students were emailing me asking for more classes, more start dates, more videos, just more? Who supported me the most?

The answers came rushing to me in full, bright clarity. Knowing who my tribe was was simple, it was women like me. Women of color who were looking for stress relief, more peace, focus and a retreat from the bustle of the world.

Next came defining myself. I decided to step all up into my boldness and do one of the most daring but easiest things I could ever do which was to simply be ME.

No over-thinking about what I should be saying or teaching or doing, but simply leaning ALL the way into the only person I’ve been with every single day of my life, Nazaahah and sharing that with my tribe.

Hence the name change from Ama Wellness to Nazaahah Amin. I chose to use my own name in my brand because the preservation of  it is of deep meaning to me.

Throughout my life, I’ve altered, shortened and chopped up my name to placate folk, from college professors who butchered it on the regular to co-workers and associates. I didn’t want to hurt their sensibilities with such an “ethnic sounding”name. But no mas. No mo’. No ma’am. Ya girl will no longer dim herself so others feel comfortable being around me.  If the light the Creator gave me is too bright for you, then put on your RayBans or gets ta stepping. Cause I’m here to live out my Nia (purpose) and share it with the world.Nazaahah Amin logo full

So my name Nazaahah Amin…Na-Zaa-Haa Ah-Meen…is it. My mother named me over 30 years ago with the intention that I would live up to its meaning of ‘honesty and integrity’. That meaning of my Arabic name is something I try to embody daily. So in honoring that, I will proudly and boldly use it.

I know that me coming into my full self only makes me a better, more present, more focused, more purpose-driven teacher for my tribe.

Have you found yourself placating others but dimming your light? Have you changed who you were to fit a mold or be what others though you should be? Let me know in the comments below and how you decided to step into your true self. Haven’t done it yet, share when you will do it!

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